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Building Bridges of Life

Praveen — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 14:33:52 +0000

Once upon a time two brothers, who lived on adjoining farms, fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a conflict.

Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning there was a knock on John’s door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s tool box. “I’m looking for a few days’ work” he said. “Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there I could help with? Could I help you?” “Yes,” said the older brother. “I do have a job for you.”

“Look across the creek at that farm. That’s my neighbor; in fact, it’s my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll do him one better.”

“See that pile of lumber by the barn? I want you to build me a fence –an 8-foot fence — so I won’t need to see his place or his face anymore.”

The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I’ll be able to do a job that pleases you.”

The older brother had to go to town, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day. The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job.

The farmer’s eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped. There was no fence there at all. It was a bridge — a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work, handrails and all — and the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming toward them, his hand outstretched. “You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.” The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand.

They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox onto his shoulder. “No, wait! Stay a few days. I’ve a lot of other projects for you,” said the older brother. “I’d love to stay on,” the carpenter said, but I have many more bridges to build.

It doesn’t matter what our outer circumstances are either, because the Kingdom of Heaven is within us. Don’t spend the rest of your life searching the world for happiness then.

Just look in the mirror and laugh. Just let the happiness flow from your heart, mind, and soul until it fills your life and the lives of all those around you..

Tips for Better Life

Praveen — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 14:31:52 +0000

Take a 10-30 minutes’ walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
Sleep for 7 hours.
Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
Play more games.
Read more books than you did the previous year.
Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
Dream more while you are awake.
Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
Drink plenty of water.
Try to make at least three people smile each day.
Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
Realise that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
Smile and laugh more.
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others.
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Forgive everyone for everything.
What other people think of you is none of your business.
GOD heals everything.
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
The best is yet to come.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
Do the right thing!
Call your family often.
Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
Each day give something good to others.
Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
Don’t be more calculative in your life for all things.

Give It A Shot‏

Praveen — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 14:24:42 +0000

Question: There are 3 frogs on a leaf. If one of them decided to jump off the leaf into the water, how many frogs are there left on the leaf?

Answer: THREE

Why?

The frog only DECIDED to jump! It didn’t!

Dreaming of a personal accomplishment, most people make the mistake of waiting…
- Waiting until they’ve been trained
- Waiting till someone say’s they are ready
- Waiting till they have the proper tools
- Waiting till they’re better
- Waiting till they’re hired
- Waiting till they’ve been given the assignment

Ponder over this, my friends. Are you not unlike the frog; who decides to do this, decides to do that, but ended up not doing any?

In life, we have to make many decisions. Some easy; some hard. Most mistakes are not made by wrong decisions; Most mistakes are made due to our inability to take a right decision at the right time.

We have to live with the consequences of our decisions. And that is RISK.

The “Want” Factor

Praveen — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 14:14:54 +0000

How badly do you want to succeed?
On a scale of 1 to 100 (with 100 meaning you are so excited and passionate about your success that you can’t sleep), how would you score right now?
How important is it for you to reach your goals? How badly do you want to increase your income? How much do you want to improve your future?

“Where no real or valuable production is occurring, one has to ask the question, does the executive really WANT the product he is demanding? And does the staff member or members he is dealing with WANT the product?” — L. Ron Hubbard
Your WANT factor is something you can control. In fact, many people succeed, not because they are experts in their fields, but because REALLY WANT to succeed. They will do whatever is necessary to reach their goals.
Many people do not really want the result of their work (the product) badly enough to make it happen. Instead of finding ways to get what they want, they find excuses. For example, “I can’t get anything done today because of the economy.”

Recommendations
NAME the product and then WANT the product as well.
1. NAME the product or the accomplishment or the result. It is much easier to want something specific than something general.
Get specific. For example, a car salesperson might want 30 test rides, 5 sales and $1000 in commissions. An accountant might want to complete 20 tax forms and start 3 new clients. A mother might want her four-year-old to learn to tie his shoes and her 16-year-old to stop smoking pot.
2. Decide to really WANT the result. Increasing your want for a product will increase your chances of getting it.
For example, “Sure, I’d like a successful career” does not show much WANT. But imagine how successful you might be if you wanted career success at this level:
“MAKING MY CAREER A BIG SUCCESS IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME THAT I’LL DO WHATEVER I MUST TO BE ONE OF THE BEST IN THE WORLD. I WILL WORK 10-12 HOURS PER DAY. I WILL LEARN ALL I CAN, AND GET AS MUCH HELP AS I CAN, FROM EVERY SOURCE POSSIBLE. I WILL EAT, SLEEP AND BREATHE MY GOAL. I WILL USE ALL MY STRENGTH, TIME, KNOWLEDGE, FAITH, CONFIDENCE AND RESOURCES TO MAKE THIS GO RIGHT. I WILL BECOME THE BEST IN THIS FIELD AND ACCOMPLISH MY GOAL NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES!”
3. If you can’t make yourself want the product, accomplishment or result, something may be wrong.
You may need to straighten up something in your life first. Certain things can kill your desire: drugs, alcohol, bad relationships, unethical behavior and so on.
Perhaps you need better self discipline, a better approach, more education, better people around you, a kinder attitude toward yourself or a better place to live or work.
Once you reorganize your life, you will find a way to passionately, intensively and unreasonably achieve what you really want.
Have more desire to get it or accomplish it than anything you’ve wanted before. If your WANT factor is strong enough, nothing can stop you.
So how much do you want to succeed?

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