No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No.

Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before.

You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn’t I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done.

It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?.

Answer: THREE

Why?

The frog only DECIDED to jump! It didn’t!

Dreaming of a personal accomplishment, most people make the mistake of waiting…
- Waiting until they’ve been trained
- Waiting till someone say’s they are ready
- Waiting till they have the proper tools
- Waiting till they’re better
- Waiting till they’re hired
- Waiting till they’ve been given the assignment

Ponder over this, my friends. Are you not unlike the frog; who decides to do this, decides to do that, but ended up not doing any?

In life, we have to make many decisions. Some easy; some hard. Most mistakes are not made by wrong decisions; Most mistakes are made due to our inability to take a right decision at the right time.

We have to live with the consequences of our decisions. And that is RISK.

When you use the correct level of intention in your communication, people pay attention to you.
People can feel your intention and you can feel theirs.

For example, have you ever noticed how you can tell someone is looking at you behind your back? Do you ever think of a person just before they call? You are feeling their intention.

People respond differently to you, based on your intention.

For example, you are in a busy clothing store and need a clerk’s help. With poor intention, you might wait all day. But with strong intention, you look at the clerk, his head whips around and he asks if he can help you.

When you add firm intention to your communication, you get better results.

For example, if you tell your children to clean up their rooms with weak intention, they continue to play around. If you tell them to clean their rooms with strong intention, they can tell that you mean it and their rooms get cleaned up.

Intention at Work
Your job is easier when you use the correct amount of intention.

For example, a coworker named Chris likes to complain to you. Chris says, "I hate this crappy chair.” "This weather is horrible." "Oh no, here comes Mr. Big again."

Tolerating or avoiding Chris resolves nothing. Your workplace remains stressful.

Yet if you look Chris in the eye and say, "Chris, stop complaining," you enjoy some wonderful results–if your intention is strong enough. It does not matter how loudly or softly you speak as verbalization has nothing to do with it. Your intention powers your statement.

A salesperson, with a strong intention to sell, gets more sales. A service representative, with a strong intention to make customers happy, helps the company thrive. A job applicant, with a strong intention to land the job, gets the job.

A manager with poor intention gets little cooperation and eventually fails. However, a manager with strong intention, finds that his or her employees usually do what they were hired to do.

Exercise Suggestions
1. Write down 3-5 things that are difficult for you to get people to do.
For example, Joe always forgets to bring back your stapler.
2. With a coach or friend, or by yourself to an object, say the first thing on your list with little or no intention. Really be wimpy.
For example, you say, “Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it,” but you are thinking, “well, if you don’t mind could you please try to remember to return my stapler if you have nothing else to do please?”
3. Now practice saying the first thing on your list with too much intention. Be much stronger than necessary.
For example, you still verbally say, “Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it,” but your intention is “JOE, BRING BACK MY STAPLER!”
4. Next, say the first thing from the list with the right amount of intention. The correct amount of intention gets the job done. Repeat a few times until it is comfortable for you.
For example, you still say, “Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it,” and your intention is very clear: “Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it.”
5. Repeat with each item on your list until you are ready to say each with the correct amount of intention.
Use clear intention in all of your communication and notice the results!

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Maybe your attention is in the past. Do you dwell on old decisions? Do people from your past still affect you? Are you constantly thinking of accidents, attacks or injuries?

If so, you are missing the best part of life.

What is Sanity?
When you are in good condition, you are in the here and now. You are aware of the present. Your thoughts and attention are neither in the past nor in the future.

“. . . the very, very sane confront the present entirely and have very little concern for the future, being competent enough in handling the present to let the future take care of itself.” — L. Ron Hubbard

If you think about it, present time is all there really is. The past and the future exist only in our minds. Present time is reality.

Try getting your attention completely in the present. Look at an object for 10 seconds. Try to do nothing but look at the object. Can you keep your attention in the present for the entire 10 seconds? Do thoughts of the past or future slip in?
Imagine having no thoughts except present-time thoughts all day long.

10 Benefits of Getting Your Attention in the Present
1. Your powers of perception are greatly increased as you see things exactly as they are.
2. You don’t beat yourself up for your bad choices in the past or potential weaknesses in the future.
3. You look at others as they actually are. This is much more accurate than how they were or how you hope they will be.
4. Bad memories have no effect on you.
5. You can control the present much more effectively than the past or the future.
6. Your job performance is far superior as you are more alert.
7. You perceive more, experience more and enjoy more.
8. You make better decisions because you view the facts as they actually are, right now.
9. Bad news does not bother you as much because it does not remind you of similar bad news from the past.
10. You have fewer accidents and injuries. Your mind does not wander. Your reactions are faster.

Two Ways to Live More in the Present
1. Increase your ability to focus your attention on the present.
Practice, practice, practice. Every time you find yourself thinking about the past, look at an object. Move your attention in the present.
When speaking to people, really look at them. Focus on what they are saying.
When working, do nothing but work. Dive yourself into your tasks with all of your attention.
Live in the present with all your activities: driving, eating, walking, playing, reading, talking, even while watching a movie.

2. Reduce the negative influences of bad incidents in your past.
Bad incidents from your past can also make you worry too much about the future. You are worried, consciously or unconsciously, that these bad things might happen again.
To reduce the power of the past, you need to face the details of the past and resolve them so they no longer bother you. Unfortunately, you cannot do it by yourself.

Mr. Hubbard found irrational behavior stems from experiences in the past. In fact, everything you dislike about yourself is based on something in your past.

An easy, safe method for resolving your past is explained in Dianetics: The Modern Science of Mental Health by L. Ron Hubbard. When you use Dianetics, you and a partner help each other by following the instructions in this best-selling book.

You can find Dianetics in bookstores, used bookstores or libraries. It is also available at www.dianetics.org and www.tipsforsuccess.org/bookstore.htm.

A DVD set called “How To Use Dianetics” has just been released. This brand-new 2-disc DVD set, contains a complete visual presentation of Dianetics. After watching the 32 short, easy-to-understand movies, you will be ready to use Dianetics to live more in the present and increase your power to succeed.
You can order the “How to Use Dianetics” DVD set for $20 by clicking here.

"Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today and you make your tomorrow." — L. Ron Hubbard

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This article addresses NAME. Future articles will cover WANT and ORGANIZE.

“IF PRODUCTION IS NOT OCCURRING, THE ABILITY TO NAME THE PRODUCT IS PROBABLY MISSING.” — L. Ron Hubbard

Paul, a highly-successful business owner, was having a difficult time finding a new wife. Because of his status, wealth, charm and social connections, dozens of single women were attracted to him. Yet after a year of dating, Paul could not find his new mate. “I can’t decide who I want to be with. It’s driving me crazy!”

So he described, in writing, every characteristic he wanted in a wife. After an hour of work, he became very excited about his list of qualities. “. . . good sense of humor, likes to entertain, wants a big family, lets me eat snacks in bed . . .” He said, “As soon as I meet her, we’re getting married!”

Four weeks later he met his mate. He recognized her immediately as he had named exactly what he was looking for. They have been married for 22 years and have four children.

Get Specific
The more specific you are when you name the product, the more likely you will get what you need and want.

For example, if the boss tells a staff member, “Get busy,” you will see lots of action, but may not see any products. The staff member accomplishes more when the boss says, “File that stack of papers and make these 40 calls today.”

Parents who name products with their kids have happier, more productive children. For example, “Clean up this mess!” is not nearly as effective as “Pick up all the toys on the rug and put them in your toy box over there, right now.”

If you push yourself to succeed without naming what you specifically want to produce, you waste time and energy.

For example you say, “I have to get some money fast!” You then jump from one task to another and accomplish nothing.
If instead you say, “I need $5000 by the end of the month. That means I need to produce the following . . . .” And then you name the necessary products or objectives you need to accomplish. As a result, your chances of getting the $5000 are much greater!

Six Steps for Naming What You Want
Naming your products or objectives is a great way to increase your income, rise to the top in your profession, find the perfect place to live, pay off your debts, find a great job, hire great employees, start a successful business and so on. When the right opportunity comes along, you don’t need to think it over for long. You can take immediate action.
Naming your product allows you to focus on the exact thing you need to do, produce, create, accomplish or locate. You can name your products for the hour, day, week, month, year, decade or lifetime. These steps may help you.

1. Think of something you need or want.
2. Describe this product or objective as specifically as possible. List all the qualities in detail.
3. Include a date when you want to get it produced or accomplished.
4. As you work to get what you need or want, review your description regularly.
5. Every time you come close to getting what you want, but then discover it is not right, revise your description to include the features you truly want or do not want.
6. If you discover your product or objective is unrealistic, revise your description to fit reality.
Start!

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Losing trust is easy. You forget a promise you made. You fail to do what you said you would do.

When business owners, executives and managers cannot be trusted, no one will buy from them or work for them. Bankruptcies, lawsuits and government investigations start with broken agreements.

Governments also run into trouble when they break their word. When its citizens or other countries expect one thing and get another, they demand new leadership.

Trust is essential to marriages. In fact, you could say most divorces stem from broken agreements. "She agreed to not have an affair!" "He was going to treat me well!" "I thought I was going to be getting a husband/wife who ________."

"One’s regard for another is based, in no small degree, on whether or not the person keeps his or her word. Even parents, for instance, would be surprised at the extent they drop in the opinion of their children when a promise is not kept."

"People who keep their word are trusted and admired. People who do not are regarded like garbage. Those who break their word often never get another chance."

"One should never permit another to give his or her word lightly. And one should insist that when a promise is made, it must be kept."
"Keep your word once given." — L. Ron Hubbard from The Way to Happiness

Three Recommendations

1. Make firm promises.
When you know you can do something or provide a specific result, don’t hesitate to say so. Look people in the eye and tell them the truth. "I will complete that project by Friday, without fail." "If the car won’t start, call us and we’ll send a tow truck within an hour." "You can deposit the check today."

2. Keep your small promises.
Many people see nothing wrong with breaking small promises. For example, you say, "I’ll call you Tuesday" but then you don’t call until Thursday. You say, "I won’t tell anyone about your wife’s drinking problem," but then you tell a few people anyway. You say, "I’ll pay you back tomorrow," but then completely forget.
If you don’t take small promises seriously, you damage your reputation. You appear disorganized or irresponsible. You make the other person feel unimportant which makes him or her treat you the same way.
When people see that you keep your word on small things, they are more likely to believe you can keep your word on big things.
People will say things like, “Thanks for remembering to send me the file this morning.” “You’re the only one who paid me for yesterday’s lunch.” “You stopped by on Saturday, just as you said you would. Thank you.”

3. When keeping your word is difficult, do it anyway.
If you can’t hold up your end, don’t rationalize or make excuses. "He won’t care that my payment is late." "She knows I usually arrive on time." "They don’t treat me with respect, so I don’t need to honor their contract."
Instead, make it go right. "Even though my car had to go to the shop, and even though someone bounced a check on me, here is your payment, as promised, on time." Even better, simply say, "Here’s your payment."
Stay up late, break a sweat, push yourself, find solutions, work harder, persist, push, demand, get your hands dirty and make it happen despite the cost. The cost of failing is much higher.

10 Benefits of Earning More Trust
1. You build an excellent reputation.
2. You spend less time convincing people to do what you ask them to do.
3. Because you are dependable, people offer you new opportunities.
4. You have more pride as you trust yourself.
5. Even if someone disagrees with you, he or she respects you.
6. If everyone involved in a business deal trusts each other, the deal works well.
7. You can make bigger and bigger promises.
8. People who trust you have no reason to attack you or criticize you.
9. Your marriage is more successful.
10. When people trust you, they are happy to give you money or help you succeed.

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We are so engrossed in the letters that we forget the paper. The enlightened sees the paper as the substratum whether the letters appear on it or not.

An exponent of the path of Self-enquiry or Atma-vichara , Ramana Maharshi was convinced that a spiritual seeker could attain Self-realisation by constantly reflecting on the question ‘Who am I?’ and tracing the `i-am-the-body’ thought (ego) to its source through deep meditation.

In deep sleep there are no perceptions. Yet, the ego was present because otherwise, there cannot be the memory of having slept. He asked: “Who slept? You did not say in your sleep that you slept; you say it in your wakeful state. So the ego is the same in wakefulness, dream and sleep. Find out the underlying Reality behind these states. There is no you, nor I, nor he; nor present, nor past, nor future. It is beyond time and space, beyond expression.”

The deep sleep state is devoid of body-consciousness but in the waking state the ‘I-am-the-body’ thought is predominant; hence the external world is perceived. Yet the fact remains that there is no change in the one who slept and the one who is now awake. The difference between waking and deep sleep lies in the emergence of body-consciousness and that no change occurs in pure consciousness that abides in eternity. And since the body is experienced in one state (waking) but not in the other (deep sleep), one can say that it arose at some particular moment and that it has both an origin and an end.

The Self, on the other hand, is the Eternal Consciousness which both pre-exists and survives the body. There is the continuity of the Being, the Eternal Self, in all the three states while the body and the worlds that appear in the waking and dream states are ephemeral.

Both the body and body-consciousness emerge and sink simultaneously. While no limitations are experienced in deep sleep, the waking state is the state of bondage characterised by limitations. Despite being devoid of worldly possessions and body, in deep sleep an individual experiences unalloyed happiness. Maharshi says: “See how carefully people prepare their beds to gain that happiness. Soft cushions and pillows are all meant to induce sound sleep, that is to say, to end wakefulness. And yet all these are of no use in the state of deep sleep itself.” Happiness therefore does not depend upon extraneous factors; it is inherent in man.

The thought ‘The body is I’, according to Ramana Maharshi, is the fundamental error. The body does not say ‘I am’; it is the individual who says `i am the body’. Similarly, the world does not proclaim its existence; it is only the individual who says: ‘This is the world’. Since the world is not cognised in deep sleep, continuity of its existence is broken which, in effect, means that it exists only in relation to the perceiver; it has no independent existence.

The Self despite being eternal and omnipresent is not easily realised because of ignorance that falsely identifies Self with body and mind. Eradication of the false sense of ‘I’ (as `I’) through Self-enquiry is the goal of meditation. Then what remains is the pure ‘I’, the Eternal Self.

It also affirms this identity as the real self because the body is the most tangible proof of existence. We can touch, feel and react with this tangible instrument. The ego is addition of many layers of likes, dislikes, preferences and priorities to this mind-body form. The sense of separateness. Of being one of a kind. Of discreteness.

The more we endeavour to attain salvation, the sense of separateness only gets reinforced. All chemicals such as alcohol and drugs induce a state of disconnect. A fleeting disconnect with the surroundings. This disconnect is pleasurable as it blunts the sensibilities and makes the individual immune to any unpleasantness of daily living. But it also fortifies the sense of separateness. This feeling of disconnect and indifference is momentarily blissful. These chemicals are addictive because they give an illusory, fleeting glimpse of ’spiritual’ experience similar to the state of realisation.

The so-called chemical disconnection is ‘exclusive’. In the sense that it refurbishes the sense of separateness but isolates the individual. The state of realisation, however, is inclusive. This inclusive disconnection is an all-pervading sense of oneness, in which any connection is superfluous. Connection or disconnection is relevant only in duality or an illusion of duality. Once this illusion of duality vanishes, what remains is unity. An impersonal awareness.

Realisation shifts the identification of the self from the mind-body form to just plain awareness. Like a drop of the ocean. This drop, when separate from the ocean, will become acutely aware of its independent existence. The drop can see the ocean separately and this separateness gives not only itself, but also the vast ocean a separate identity as well.

When the drop merges in the ocean it does not destroy the physicality of the drop. The drop just merges and loses its separateness. It becomes one with the ocean. Till the point of impact, it still maintains its identity, but at the moment of impact, the drop seemingly disappears. That state of merger can thereafter not be perceived, because perception was of the drop. When the drop ceases to exist, who or what is there to perceive?

The disconnect that occurs by inclusion is everlasting, beyond any time-space considerations. Compassion for all life then becomes the effect rather than any imbibed virtue. The sense of unity is not even an experience because experience implies the existence of an experienced. And we all are conditioned to believe that realisation would mean probably seeing some divine light, or hearing some soulful music or a tremendous state of happiness and so on.

The merger automatically dissolves the ego. It also liberates one from all desires and lust for sensory gratification. The body will eventually live out its destiny, but there would be no sense of doer-ship. There would be just a residual observer who transcends even joy and sorrow. The unqualified awareness celebrates a sense of ‘am-ness’ unadulterated by expectations and longing.

The intangibility and dissolution of one’s identity can scarcely be expressed by any means of communication. The final moment of oneness can be experienced only when all layers of misconception are peeled away and the real self is apperceived not as a separate identity but paradoxically the absence of any.